A younger lady is lifeless after gaining recognition on TikTok by opening her coronary heart about her troublesome divorce from a “toxic” man. It seems that man who she “shouldn’t have been” married to within the first place was so terrible, he not solely couldn’t let her go away, he couldn’t let her dwell.
Once we speak about destigmatizing divorce, making it simpler to attain and extra culturally acceptable — not harder — that is the sort of case we’re speaking about. Sadly, it’s too late for Sania Khan. However her message ought to dwell on.
The Pakistani American photographer was putting a nerve recently together with her posts on divorce. She had been married lower than a 12 months to a person named Raheel Ahmad when she realized, as she put it, she was with “just another toxic South Asian man.” She wrote in a single emotional video:
“Going through a divorce as a South Asian woman feels like you failed at life sometimes. The way the community labels you, the lack of support you receive, and the pressure to stay with someone because ‘what will people say’ makes it harder for women to leave marriages that they shouldn’t have been in to begin with.”
She revealed the darkish reality that a few of her members of the family had even threatened self hurt if she went by with shifting away from Ahmad. She deliberate to room with a pal in her hometown of Chattanooga, Tennessee — however her household pressured her as onerous as they might to remain on the town and work issues out together with her ex:
“My family members told me if I left my husband I would let Shaytan win, that I dress like a prostitute and if I move back to my hometown they’ll kill themselves.”
In maybe her most significant, common assertion she wrote:
“You are not a failure because your marriage did not work out.”
In opening up about her ache, partially on account of her household, she was reaching a group that wanted to listen to that reality.
Sadly, the crimson flags she didn’t heed about her husband turned out to be extra dire a warning than she realized. In line with a surprising story out of the Chicago Solar-Instances, Raheel adopted his ex to Chicago and murdered her — earlier than turning the gun on himself.
Per the outlet, it was Raheel’s household who reported him lacking after they couldn’t discover him in his house in Alpharetta, Georgia — and that ultimately led authorities to the door of his ex, who had moved into an condo in Chicago. Police doing a easy welfare test final Monday reported knocking, then instantly listening to a gunshot and a groan. Busting within the door, they discovered Sania already lifeless and Raheel dying. Each had gunshot wounds to the top.
He traveled 700 miles, armed with a gun, as a result of he couldn’t let her go away him.
Gabriella Bordó, the pal with whom she had simply signed a lease, was devastated — however they each noticed the warning indicators from Raheel. Sania had thought of getting a restraining order, in line with her BFF, however by no means went by with it. Gabriella instructed Time Journal regardless of his scariness Sania was “encouraged to stay, pleaded with to stay, by her family and ex-husband’s family” — however wouldn’t return to him. Describing the character of their marriage, she defined:
“I didn’t see someone as spirited as her being so manipulated or controlled by someone but she was. He monitored what she wore. He was wary about who she hung out with, how she presented herself.”
As her followers knew, she was shifting on, making a brand new life for herself. She was doing the best factor for her personal well being and happiness. Gabriella stated:
“She was leaving. They hadn’t lived together for a long time. She had a home here with me. I was there to bring her home.”
As for whether or not she would have thought of going again to Raheel, she says no manner — and he knew it:
“There was no reconciling. This man did not go there to salvage a marriage. He went there with a gun for a reason. He knew I was coming. My social media and hers is completely public. It was his last opportunity and he took it.”
In actual fact, Gabriella had simply landed in Chicago on Monday to assist her pal transfer. So it appears she’s proper in regards to the timeline — he will need to have seen her publish about shifting and went to finish issues earlier than he wouldn’t be capable to discover her. Really disgusting.
Sania had double-majored in psychology and girls’s research, then hung out as a social employee and a flight attendant whereas finding out to comply with her true ardour: pictures. She was simply 29 years previous.
This lady deserved to pursue her desires, she deserved to dwell her personal life. She was not the property of any man, irrespective of how onerous he or anybody else believed it. Our hearts are damaged to know the life she was pushing for was taken from her so brutally. We simply hope others who see her TikToks and comply with her story are inspired to demand extra from their lives — and are much more cautious of males they know are poisonous.
[Image via Sania Khan/TikTok.]